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Want to reach out about loved one who may need help with excessive clutter or hoarding tendencies?

Updated: Aug 26



 

What happens if it's not YOU that needs help?


When you set up an appointment with Progress LLC & we discuss your current situation, one of the questions we always ask is how we can help you today? What happens if you identify that it's not really YOU that needs the help? If you're calling because you feel that a loved one, someone you live with, or someone that you are close to, has excessive clutter or hoarding tenancies, as a Professional Organizer, I will definitely have these follow-up questions.



Does the person you're calling about know you're calling us for help with their excessive clutter or hoarding tendencies?


No matter how good your intentions are, if you are calling for someone else, and they don't know you're calling, we will have to pause the conversation. You should not surprise your loved one with a phone call or a consultation with a Chronic Disorganization Specialist®/ADHD Specialist. If you haven't spoken to them directly about your concerns, that would be the next, very important step. Once that conversation has happened, if they are open to speaking more about it with me, we can resume the conversation at a later date about what their goals are, what I can offer as a Professional Organizer, and the next steps in the process.


Does your loved one WANT help with their excessive clutter or hoarding tendencies?


Even if you feel they need it, if your loved one is not ready for help & change, or doesn't see the problem with their current situation, there isn't much more I can do for either of you at this point in time. I cannot organize & clear clutter their space(s) while they're not at home, without them knowing, without their consent, etc. Nor could I do any steps of the process without their active participation. There are a range of very real emotions attached to excessive clutter & hoarding tendencies. Trying to force someone to take the help that doesn't want it can make it very difficult to build trust & and cut off any ability for me to build rapport with your loved one. It may also cause tension in your relationship.


If your loved one DOESN'T want help at this time-

All you can do is express your concerns for their happiness, safety & well-being. You are just planting a seed & letting them know there are options and a team of providers that can help them, when they are ready.

In the meantime, a few books/audiobooks that you could read to further educate yourself about excessive clutter & hoarding tendencies are:

1-Overcoming Compulsive Hoarding

Amazon.com: Overcoming Compulsive Hoarding: Why You Save and How You Can Stop: 9781572243491: Jerome Bubrick, Fugen Neziroglu, Jose Yaryura-Tobias, Patricia B. Perkins: Books

2-Digging Out

Digging Out: Helping Your Loved One Manage Clutter, Hoarding, and Compulsive Acquiring: Michael A. Tompkins, Tamara L. Hartl: 9781572245945: Amazon.com: Books

3-Buried In Treasures

Amazon.com: Buried in Treasures: Help for Compulsive Acquiring, Saving, and Hoarding (Treatments That Work): 8601410547158: Tolin, David, Frost, Randy O., Steketee, Gail: Books

4-Junk

Junk: Digging Through America's Love Affair with Stuff: Stewart, Alison: 9781641600187: Amazon.com: Books

5-Don't Toss My Memories In The Trash

Don't Toss My Memories in the Trash: Vickie Dellaquila: 9780978818920: Amazon.com: Books

6-What Your Clutter Is Trying to Tell You: Uncover the Message in the Mess and Reclaim Your Life

What Your Clutter Is Trying to Tell You: Uncover the Message in the Mess and Reclaim Your Life: Richardson, Kerri L.: 9781401953010: Amazon.com: Books

7-When Perfect Isn't Good Enough

When Perfect Isn't Good Enough: Strategies for Coping with Perfectionism: Antony PhD, Martin M., Swinson MD, Richard P.: 0884693573481: Amazon.com: Books

8-The Anxious Perfectionist

The Anxious Perfectionist: How to Manage Perfectionism-Driven Anxiety Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: Ong PhD, Clarissa W., Twohig PhD, Michael P., Frost PhD, Randy O.: 9781684038459: Amazon.com: Books

9-More Attention, Less Deficit: Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD

More Attention, Less Deficit: Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD: Ari Tuckman: 9781886941748: Amazon.com: Books

10-The ADHD Effect on Marriage

The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps: Melissa Orlov, Edward M. Hallowell: 0884427569643: Amazon.com: Books

11-Taking Charge of Adult ADHD

Taking Charge of Adult ADHD, Second Edition: Proven Strategies to Succeed at Work, at Home, and in Relationships: 9781462546855: Medicine & Health Science Books @ Amazon.com

12-Smart But Stuck: Emotions in Teens and Adults with ADHD

Smart But Stuck: Emotions in Teens and Adults with ADHD: Brown, Thomas E.: 9781118279281: Amazon.com: Books

13-Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts: A CBT-Based Guide to Getting Over Frightening, Obsessive, or Disturbing Thoughts

Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts: A CBT-Based Guide to Getting Over Frightening, Obsessive, or Disturbing Thoughts: Winston PsyD, Sally M., Seif PhD, Martin N.: 9781626254343: Amazon.com: Books

14-It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle: Wolynn, Mark: 9781101980385: Amazon.com: Books

15-Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things: Gail Steketee, Randy Frost: 9780547422558: Amazon.com: Books






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